During our seminar on Thursday several issues were addressed. Two in particular stuck out the most to me. The first was about females having more guy friends than female friends and the second was the issue of many of us growing up without a father. I am one that is guilty of having more guy friends than female friends for one I grew up with a brother and most of my cousins were boys and two I find males to be less jealous and they dont beat around the bush as the old saying goes. Then there were a few individuals that felt like they would not have made it if they did not have their father in their lives. I did not fully understand that becasue I grew up without my father being in my life but I was around other positive male role models such as my granddad and I think that I turned out just fine. It is interesting when we do attend these seminars and you get to listen to how those of us of different age groups view different issues.
The event on campus thursday night for the woman, was very interesting. We discussed different topics, of sisterhood and how sisterhood should be. Sisterhood was defined as a bond that should be strong, and not weak. The speaker gave and oppurtunity for several questions to be asked. 1.)Why do females have more guy friends than girlfriends. 2.) Why do females hate on one another. The responses to these questions, were vague at first, but became very vivid once the discussion was over. I think after the meeting we all took away a valuable lesson, which can help us in our everyday lifestyles, of building a strong sisterhood, inner and outer our circle of friends
As an older student, I felt like I was at freshmen orientation. People getting up and down, moving all around, it was like being at the movies with teenagers. I did not learn anything from the seminar. The speaker was not that good and I felt it was a waste of the hour I spent there. After reading Janella and Tonya's comments I can see that it may have been interesting for young students who may be going through the drama discussed currently. I can't be bothered with all of that drama at this age. I do agree with Tonya that there may be other positive male role models than a father.
I agree with Denise, and i did leave early, it was beneficial to the young ladies in the forum, i didn't grow up "hating" on other females. When we formed a friendship, it was true,yes sometimes guys came into the equation,but we never let them come in between us. The speaker was a little over the top for me,but it amused, and entertained the younger females, so they probably got something out of it. I just "went over" for a Social Fellowship,and i had to spend three days, and two nights with women i didn't know,some i had only met once very briefly, we bonded,quickly and we forged an alliance to get the task done, without drama. We agreed to disagree, i really don't think the average young adult lady could have done what we did for one night without the drama, the forum spoke on. Was it easy no,it wasn't meant to be, but the end result was success. I now have a new found group of sisters who will have my back,help me when i need it, and correct me when i am wrong. We forged a bond for life. It was funny though listening to the ladies in the forum speak about what they go through in the dorms,and on campus.
Well, yes I was there and I guess I am considered as one of the "young" ladies. I felt like I was alittle mislead at first, but I did get into it towards the middle because I do have a best friend who is a male and I dont really feel like it is a problem. I actually have more fun and we can be real and upfront with each other about anything. He tell me like it is and vise versa. I think that every female should have a close relationship with atleast one male just so they can get some insight on how males act.
Im gladd to see that some females actually went to the event, it sounds like it was really interesting especially how the older students couldnt see the relevence of the seminar but the younger student could... Geesh!, theres something there ladies, older students have to bridge the gaps with there younger selves, there has been a significant change in thoughts; older woman need to take heed and make young ladies maybe just alil more knowledgeable... I think those are really good topics tho and i see and hear them everyday, "all my friends are guys" ???wtf is that?? "That b#!ch is a hater" and so on... these topics appeared to be pretty relevant.. Ithink!..... The male seminar was GREAT!, alot of information on leadership!!
Great questions!!!
Speaker was Great!!(dean @ MIT) (Black Guy)
Big advice about Discipline
Great advice on learning to explore ones own life mission!!!
Had dinner with the speaker after the conference and spoke about responsibility, judgement,and society.
Wow...the seminar on Thursday was very enlighting as well as a wake up call for us sisters to have true sisterhood.The seminar talked about many issues we deal with on a everyday basics such as "why females have more guy friends than female friends", people basically gave there reason and most people answer was that "males" are much cooler than females, basically guys keep it real at all times no matter what! Another issue that we also talked about was why females tend to gossip about one another? but i d think the speaker could have been much better but overall i took a message home with me when i left.
JJ, i didn't say i didn't see the relevance in it, but at 39 we don't have those issues, at least i don't, I am sure there are women old and young who deal with issues like those. The forum was just geared towards younger women, there is no gap to build a bridge over, if you and the other young ladies got something out of it. What she said was had i had no use for at this stage in my life,and actually did not go through it when i was your age either. I think some young ladies are more confrontational these days,there is more emphasis on image,and popularity. I hear the things the young ladies in the computer lab,library,and classes say about each other, i find it funny that they can't find something more useful to do with their time, than talk about somebody. If it you got something out of it,then it was worth going to.
Thursday was very interesting to me... the thing that stuck out to me the most was why alot of girls have more guy friends to me... (as i sat in the back i wanted to speak but decided not to be heres my chance to say what i wanted)lol... I myself dont have guy friends besides the ones i accumulated from running track...but over the years i have had bad experiences with females i believe the 7th grade is when i said "i cant do females" i stayed in fights bck to bck cont to get suspended from school over he say she said stuff when half the time i didnt even know how my name got in the mix... then i went a brief period without hanging with crowds of girls and realize i was in less fights, i was on chill mode i guess you can say...then my freshmen yr at shaw i decide new crowd more mature people "start over" worse mistake...out of a group of 12 that were claiming sister this sister that none of them talk but i still speak to everyone...they seen me as the "mother of the crew", but it wasnt cool with all 12 because someone would always come in me and my roommate room and talk to us about someone else in the group which was weird to me...sisterhood is suspose to be strong and true and if they come to us talking about each other what were they saying to the others about us...made me think....now senior i have came arcoss alot of females but i keep only a hand full close...i can honestly say Leola is one of my truest friend we may have our fall out at times but at the end of the day she knows i love her and we do for each other like no other...i guess im cool with not haveing any female friends...rather associates more than anything...so the dicussion on thursday i could see where some of the females were coming from
Tonya i agree with what you saying as far as the hold father thing... my "dad" WAS the world's best dad, when my parents got divorce he still made an effort to come around and see us as if nothing had occur...summers great time spent...it was until he came bck from iraq things took a toll...he wasnt the same person as he left...coming around,attitude, nothing i was thinking to myself what happen...he thank the lord for him but im so UPSET WITH HIM...I HAVENT TALK TO OR SEEN HIM SINCE HE DROPPED ME OFF AT SHAW AUG 17,2005 (THAT REAL HURTS) :( I DNT KNOW WHY THAT IS I CALLED AND LEFT MESSAGES BUT NO ANSWERS I EVEN WENT AS FAR AS GOING TO HIS HOME TOWN OVER THE SUMMER AND TEXT HIM TO LET HIM KNOW I WAS IN TOWN STILL NO ANSWER..(SUMMER 08) I COULD BE BITTER ABOUT THE SITUATION BUT INSTEAD I TAKE THAT AS MOTAVATION WHY...COLUDNT TELL YOU I REMEMBER THE GOOD OLD DAYS WHEN HE WAS ALWAYS THERE...I SAY MY FATHER WASNT IN MY LIFE WHEN I REALLY NEED/NEEDED HIM THE MOST BUT I FEEL I HAVE PROSPERED WELL...I HAD A HEALTHY BABY GIRL WHO HE HASNT SEEN (ALMOST 2 YRS) AND IM ABOUT TO GRADUATE IN MAY...CRAZY HUH...I DO THANK HIM FOR DRIVING ME DOWN HERE AND DROPPING ME OFF...BUT I FELL LIKE AN ORPHAN WHOM HAS FOUND HER WAY...:)
Im so glad that you shared that experience doNchelle; at the male conference, and even at the dinner table we spoke about male awareness and the need for men to be the most positive role model that a child can see, especially a for females. I beleive that being a father provides the best outlook on shaping who a young woman will search for and marry; i beleive that the foundation of a man in the houshold provides the needed examples of whom a woman should see when considering a mate
The conference on thursday seemed to be very enlighting.I had to leave early but from what I have read there was a lot learned because with out a positive male role modle, I might not have made this far. Because when there is nobody there to teach u. U find out the hard way and make an mistake, and in this society one mistake can make u BECOME an INMATE. If there more positive male role modles we could change the nation.
The male conference on thursday was good. I got to listen to a man who knew what he wanted in life from a child and he didnt let nothin he heard or did stop him. He just took it all in and stayed on track to reach his goals in life. He also let us know that all tho college is suppose to b the best experience of ur life, u still have to maintain fun time, party time, and business. and that if u are not enjoying ur college life, its something u r doing personally and u need to change that.
I think the seminar on Thursday was excellent because it made me look at things differently in my life. I thought that setting goals was overrated but seeing and hearing from someone in a higher place that set goals for his life as the male speraker that we had made me think otherwise. His goal was to grow up and attend morehouse college, attend MIT, and then become an astronaut, he accomplished two of the three goals he set in his life now i think he's working on the third goal now. Knowing that, made me think about the goals that i set fourth in my life and i honestly think that i can accomplish my goals, becoming the first one in my family to graduate from college, play in the national football leauge, and be successful in life. I was always taught and told that whatever I put my heart and mind to in life I can do it no matter what so thats what im going to do.
The comments expressed by everyone was interesting. I hope everyone did take something vauleable from the event. I do understand were the older ladies in our class were coming from. It was and experience geared towards a younger audience. Overall it seems as though, some enjoyed and others did not. I look forward to the dicussions in tonights class.
I felt that the seminar on Thursday was insightful from a success aspect. I admired how the speaker shared the adverse life events that lead to him accomplishing his goals. It was almost inspirational to me, because I have life goals that i have yet to accomplish via adversity. I feel that in my current position in life, I needed someone to be a witness to "sticking with it" reguardless of what obstacles life may throw my way.
One of the greatest saying of all time is if you don’t believe in yourself then who will. This line is very much useful in everyday life. As people, we are always trying to make believers out of others or persuade doubters in to thinking that there doubting really holds no weight and that you are going to show them in the near future. These are the exact beliefs that we all should want to portray. Even though at times our dreams, and goals outreach even our own imaginations. But never short change yourself, because out there in the world there is someone doing exactly what you have proclaimed you want to do, and no matter how crazy or how impossible things might seem or realistically be, never short change yourself, because these dreams are attainable. These goals are reachable and only when you start to short change yourself will the rest of the world begin to follow suit and down your dreams and aspirations like they don’t even exist like you don’t even exist. People would rather see you kill yourself and leave there own hands clean. So never short change yourself, because as long as you believe there’s still a chance and you understand that with a chance at anything that means anything can happen.
The seminar was um ok. I personally didnt gain anything extra from it. I thought she would be giving us points or something as to why women or young females act or say the things that they do.
the seminar was just ok i really didnt get anything from it because me and my freinds discuss sitautions like that all the time so it wasnt a big thing for me. the speaker did bring up some valid points on why women cant get along which i think is true but i think she should have did more talking to her audience instead of having us argue back and forth
Sorry I missed blogging last week, computer has a virus and I ended up having to purchase a new one!! (God is Good) So, I'm back up and running, see you in class!
During our seminar on Thursday several issues were addressed. Two in particular stuck out the most to me. The first was about females having more guy friends than female friends and the second was the issue of many of us growing up without a father. I am one that is guilty of having more guy friends than female friends for one I grew up with a brother and most of my cousins were boys and two I find males to be less jealous and they dont beat around the bush as the old saying goes. Then there were a few individuals that felt like they would not have made it if they did not have their father in their lives. I did not fully understand that becasue I grew up without my father being in my life but I was around other positive male role models such as my granddad and I think that I turned out just fine. It is interesting when we do attend these seminars and you get to listen to how those of us of different age groups view different issues.
ReplyDeleteThe event on campus thursday night for the woman, was very interesting. We discussed different topics, of sisterhood and how sisterhood should be. Sisterhood was defined as a bond that should be strong, and not weak. The speaker gave and oppurtunity for several questions to be asked. 1.)Why do females have more guy friends than girlfriends. 2.) Why do females hate on one another. The responses to these questions, were vague at first, but became very vivid once the discussion was over. I think after the meeting we all took away a valuable lesson, which can help us in our everyday lifestyles, of building a strong sisterhood, inner and outer our circle of friends
ReplyDeleteAs an older student, I felt like I was at freshmen orientation. People getting up and down, moving all around, it was like being at the movies with teenagers. I did not learn anything from the seminar. The speaker was not that good and I felt it was a waste of the hour I spent there. After reading Janella and Tonya's comments I can see that it may have been interesting for young students who may be going through the drama discussed currently. I can't be bothered with all of that drama at this age. I do agree with Tonya that there may be other positive male role models than a father.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Denise, and i did leave early, it was beneficial to the young ladies in the forum, i didn't grow up "hating" on other females. When we formed a friendship, it was true,yes sometimes guys came into the equation,but we never let them come in between us. The speaker was a little over the top for me,but it amused, and entertained the younger females, so they probably got something out of it. I just "went over" for a Social Fellowship,and i had to spend three days, and two nights with women i didn't know,some i had only met once very briefly, we bonded,quickly and we forged an alliance to get the task done, without drama. We agreed to disagree, i really don't think the average young adult lady could have done what we did for one night without the drama, the forum spoke on. Was it easy no,it wasn't meant to be, but the end result was success. I now have a new found group of sisters who will have my back,help me when i need it, and correct me when i am wrong. We forged a bond for life. It was funny though listening to the ladies in the forum speak about what they go through in the dorms,and on campus.
ReplyDeleteWell, yes I was there and I guess I am considered as one of the "young" ladies. I felt like I was alittle mislead at first, but I did get into it towards the middle because I do have a best friend who is a male and I dont really feel like it is a problem. I actually have more fun and we can be real and upfront with each other about anything. He tell me like it is and vise versa. I think that every female should have a close relationship with atleast one male just so they can get some insight on how males act.
ReplyDeleteIm gladd to see that some females actually went to the event, it sounds like it was really interesting especially how the older students couldnt see the relevence of the seminar but the younger student could... Geesh!, theres something there ladies, older students have to bridge the gaps with there younger selves, there has been a significant change in thoughts; older woman need to take heed and make young ladies maybe just alil more knowledgeable... I think those are really good topics tho and i see and hear them everyday, "all my friends are guys" ???wtf is that?? "That b#!ch is a hater" and so on... these topics appeared to be pretty relevant.. Ithink!..... The male seminar was GREAT!,
ReplyDeletealot of information on leadership!!
Great questions!!!
Speaker was Great!!(dean @ MIT)
(Black Guy)
Big advice about Discipline
Great advice on learning to explore ones own life mission!!!
Had dinner with the speaker after the conference and spoke about responsibility, judgement,and society.
Truly awesome
Wow...the seminar on Thursday was very enlighting as well as a wake up call for us sisters to have true sisterhood.The seminar talked about many issues we deal with on a everyday basics such as "why females have more guy friends than female friends", people basically gave there reason and most people answer was that "males" are much cooler than females, basically guys keep it real at all times no matter what! Another issue that we also talked about was why females tend to gossip about one another? but i d think the speaker could have been much better but overall i took a message home with me when i left.
ReplyDeleteJJ, i didn't say i didn't see the relevance in it, but at 39 we don't have those issues, at least i don't, I am sure there are women old and young who deal with issues like those. The forum was just geared towards younger women, there is no gap to build a bridge over, if you and the other young ladies got something out of it. What she said was had i had no use for at this stage in my life,and actually did not go through it when i was your age either. I think some young ladies are more confrontational these days,there is more emphasis on image,and popularity. I hear the things the young ladies in the computer lab,library,and classes say about each other, i find it funny that they can't find something more useful to do with their time, than talk about somebody. If it you got something out of it,then it was worth going to.
ReplyDeleteThursday was very interesting to me... the thing that stuck out to me the most was why alot of girls have more guy friends to me... (as i sat in the back i wanted to speak but decided not to be heres my chance to say what i wanted)lol... I myself dont have guy friends besides the ones i accumulated from running track...but over the years i have had bad experiences with females i believe the 7th grade is when i said "i cant do females" i stayed in fights bck to bck cont to get suspended from school over he say she said stuff when half the time i didnt even know how my name got in the mix... then i went a brief period without hanging with crowds of girls and realize i was in less fights, i was on chill mode i guess you can say...then my freshmen yr at shaw i decide new crowd more mature people "start over" worse mistake...out of a group of 12 that were claiming sister this sister that none of them talk but i still speak to everyone...they seen me as the "mother of the crew", but it wasnt cool with all 12 because someone would always come in me and my roommate room and talk to us about someone else in the group which was weird to me...sisterhood is suspose to be strong and true and if they come to us talking about each other what were they saying to the others about us...made me think....now senior i have came arcoss alot of females but i keep only a hand full close...i can honestly say Leola is one of my truest friend we may have our fall out at times but at the end of the day she knows i love her and we do for each other like no other...i guess im cool with not haveing any female friends...rather associates more than anything...so the dicussion on thursday i could see where some of the females were coming from
ReplyDeleteTonya i agree with what you saying as far as the hold father thing... my "dad" WAS the world's best dad, when my parents got divorce he still made an effort to come around and see us as if nothing had occur...summers great time spent...it was until he came bck from iraq things took a toll...he wasnt the same person as he left...coming around,attitude, nothing i was thinking to myself what happen...he thank the lord for him but im so UPSET WITH HIM...I HAVENT TALK TO OR SEEN HIM SINCE HE DROPPED ME OFF AT SHAW AUG 17,2005 (THAT REAL HURTS) :( I DNT KNOW WHY THAT IS I CALLED AND LEFT MESSAGES BUT NO ANSWERS I EVEN WENT AS FAR AS GOING TO HIS HOME TOWN OVER THE SUMMER AND TEXT HIM TO LET HIM KNOW I WAS IN TOWN STILL NO ANSWER..(SUMMER 08) I COULD BE BITTER ABOUT THE SITUATION BUT INSTEAD I TAKE THAT AS MOTAVATION WHY...COLUDNT TELL YOU I REMEMBER THE GOOD OLD DAYS WHEN HE WAS ALWAYS THERE...I SAY MY FATHER WASNT IN MY LIFE WHEN I REALLY NEED/NEEDED HIM THE MOST BUT I FEEL I HAVE PROSPERED WELL...I HAD A HEALTHY BABY GIRL WHO HE HASNT SEEN (ALMOST 2 YRS) AND IM ABOUT TO GRADUATE IN MAY...CRAZY HUH...I DO THANK HIM FOR DRIVING ME DOWN HERE AND DROPPING ME OFF...BUT I FELL LIKE AN ORPHAN WHOM HAS FOUND HER WAY...:)
ReplyDeleteIm so glad that you shared that experience doNchelle; at the male conference, and even at the dinner table we spoke about male awareness and the need for men to be the most positive role model that a child can see, especially a for females. I beleive that being a father provides the best outlook on shaping who a young woman will search for and marry; i beleive that the foundation of a man in the houshold provides the needed examples of whom a woman should see when considering a mate
ReplyDeleteFathers Are Important!!!!
ReplyDeleteThe conference on thursday seemed to be very enlighting.I had to leave early but from what I have read there was a lot learned because with out a positive male role modle, I might not have made this far. Because when there is nobody there to teach u. U find out the hard way and make an mistake, and in this society one mistake can make u BECOME an INMATE. If there more positive male role modles we could change the nation.
ReplyDeleteThe male conference on thursday was good. I got to listen to a man who knew what he wanted in life from a child and he didnt let nothin he heard or did stop him. He just took it all in and stayed on track to reach his goals in life. He also let us know that all tho college is suppose to b the best experience of ur life, u still have to maintain fun time, party time, and business. and that if u are not enjoying ur college life, its something u r doing personally and u need to change that.
ReplyDeleteI think the seminar on Thursday was excellent because it made me look at things differently in my life. I thought that setting goals was overrated but seeing and hearing from someone in a higher place that set goals for his life as the male speraker that we had made me think otherwise. His goal was to grow up and attend morehouse college, attend MIT, and then become an astronaut, he accomplished two of the three goals he set in his life now i think he's working on the third goal now. Knowing that, made me think about the goals that i set fourth in my life and i honestly think that i can accomplish my goals, becoming the first one in my family to graduate from college, play in the national football leauge, and be successful in life. I was always taught and told that whatever I put my heart and mind to in life I can do it no matter what so thats what im going to do.
ReplyDeleteThe comments expressed by everyone was interesting. I hope everyone did take something vauleable from the event. I do understand were the older ladies in our class were coming from. It was and experience geared towards a younger audience. Overall it seems as though, some enjoyed and others did not. I look forward to the dicussions in tonights class.
ReplyDeleteI felt that the seminar on Thursday was insightful from a success aspect. I admired how the speaker shared the adverse life events that lead to him accomplishing his goals. It was almost inspirational to me, because I have life goals that i have yet to accomplish via adversity. I feel that in my current position in life, I needed someone to be a witness to "sticking with it" reguardless of what obstacles life may throw my way.
ReplyDeleteOne of the greatest saying of all time is if you don’t believe in yourself then who will. This line is very much useful in everyday life. As people, we are always trying to make believers out of others or persuade doubters in to thinking that there doubting really holds no weight and that you are going to show them in the near future. These are the exact beliefs that we all should want to portray. Even though at times our dreams, and goals outreach even our own imaginations. But never short change yourself, because out there in the world there is someone doing exactly what you have proclaimed you want to do, and no matter how crazy or how impossible things might seem or realistically be, never short change yourself, because these dreams are attainable. These goals are reachable and only when you start to short change yourself will the rest of the world begin to follow suit and down your dreams and aspirations like they don’t even exist like you don’t even exist. People would rather see you kill yourself and leave there own hands clean. So never short change yourself, because as long as you believe there’s still a chance and you understand that with a chance at anything that means anything can happen.
ReplyDeleteThe seminar was um ok. I personally didnt gain anything extra from it. I thought she would be giving us points or something as to why women or young females act or say the things that they do.
ReplyDeletethe seminar was just ok i really didnt get anything from it because me and my freinds discuss sitautions like that all the time so it wasnt a big thing for me. the speaker did bring up some valid points on why women cant get along which i think is true but i think she should have did more talking to her audience instead of having us argue back and forth
ReplyDeleteSorry I missed blogging last week, computer has a virus and I ended up having to purchase a new one!! (God is Good) So, I'm back up and running, see you in class!
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